Can You Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Do you really think that your ex-boyfriend doesn’t love you anymore? He broke up with you but something tells you that things just aren’t quite right. Something doesn’t make sense and no matter what he says, you still believe that there must still be some love in his heart for you. It doesn’t matter if he told you that he doesn’t love you anymore, that he only loves you as a friend or that he never loved you at all, you know that these words simply don’t make sense. You know that what you had was real. You know that he loved you.
But, what does this get you? How do you know if he still loves you? Well, without love there is no sense in trying to get him back. If it was all a lie then there’s no sense in wasting your time trying to get back together with him and this is why you’re trying to figure out his true feelings. It consumes you and plagues you like a disease. Thoughts of him are constantly in your mind as you try to make sense of what happened in your relationship that could bring you from feeling so loved to such utter rejection from the man that you love.
Knowing Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You
While you might know that love is forever and that if someone loves you these feelings never really go away, how do you know for sure if he loves you? How can you tell in the midst of a breakup that he still loves you? There are signs and although it might be difficult to believe some of these signs that your ex boyfriend does still love you, the signs make sense if you are looking at them from a different point of view. You are emotionally involved in this relationship and the resulting breakup. Every evil word and the slightest reject is personal to you. But if you can take a step back and see things from outside the bubble that is your life, you will see his actions and his words for what they really are.
If you ex-boyfriend is particularly hostile towards you or calls you names, you might think that he hates you. There is only a subtle difference between signs of anger or hate and true love. Deep passionate love can easily turn into some of the most easily misunderstood emotions when a relationship becomes out of balance. One of those emotions or outward appearances of an emotion is hate. If your ex boyfriend acts like he hates you then you can be reasonably sure that he does still have feelings for you. Of course, those feelings are damaged either by something that you did or by the downward spiral in your relationship as you tried desperately to hold on to him as he pushed you away.
Why You Should Know Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You
If your ex-boyfriend really didn’t feel anything at all he would feel apathy. He would feel nothing. He wouldn’t react to you at all and it wouldn’t be difficult at all for him to see you, talk to you or even be friends with you. The opposite of love is not hate. It’s apathy. This should not be confused with him acting like he doesn’t care about you and him pushing you away. True apathy means that he doesn’t really care at all. This means that it would not bother him to see you. He would act towards you as he would a grocery store clerk or anyone walking down the street who might ask him for directions. That is true apathy and that is probably not what you are experiencing from him, is it?
While it might be true that your ex-boyfriend does still love you and have feelings for you, this doesn’t mean that you should confront him with this revelation. Telling him that you know that he still loves you and that you understand now why he is so mean to you wouldn’t be a wise move. It will only cause him to further bury his feelings for you. You see, right now the power balance in your relationship is all on his side. You are the one that wants to get back together. The attention and desire that you bring into the relationship has to be counterbalanced by him pushing you away. The harder you push for the relationship and the harder you try to get him to fall in love with you the more you push him away, basically.
Understanding why men act the way that they do and learning what you can do to get your relationship back into balance is crucial to your success if you are hoping to get him back. Men are just a little different than us women which is what makes fixing a broken relationship so difficult. But once you understand what’s going through your ex-boyfriend’s head and what you can do to help him to see that he does still love you, the sooner you will get your ex boyfriend back.